My Haughty Adorable Wife Has Arrived

When everyone heard this, they were all stunned. What kind of logic is this? Su Xiaowan was thinking, does Shen Jiadan have the Virgin Mary's complex to save the world?

It seems that many people think this way, and feel uneasy as if they have done something bad if they don't help the other person.

Although I have been taught since childhood to be charitable and helpful, but...

Su Xiaowan looked at Shen Jiadan seriously and said: "Dandan, although it is a good thing to be helpful and being good at helping others is also a good deed, but like Zhang Ying and others, you would rather violate other people's will and give them unwanted help. You are forcing others to do something they don’t want to do, and your purpose is to make yourself feel at ease. Your behavior is selfish..."

After Shen Jiadan heard this, he immediately felt as if he had been attacked. He sat upright reflexively and looked at Su Xiaowan blankly. His face was red and his hands were trembling, as if his thoughts were being disturbed by someone. As if exposed.

Su Xiaowan looked at Shen Jiadan like this and knew that what she said had irritated her. However, this was a good time. Shen Jiadan would be good at anything, but this kind of idealism that loves to fight against injustice and always wants to save others is too obsessed.

Whether as a friend or as her future cousin-in-law, Su Xiaowan felt obliged to talk about it.

So, regardless of Shen Jiadan's eyes glowing red, looking directly, angry, and hostile, he continued: "Dandan, I say you are selfish, not because of how bad your behavior is, but because of your starting point for doing things. The question is, you must help them escape from the sea of ​​suffering. Rather, you want to gain a sense of peace or accomplishment in your own heart..."

"I don't know if you've watched too much martial arts, or what. I think it's cool and admirable for those heroes to fight injustices and do justice for heaven. However, you have to notice that although the people who are saved are suffering, the most important thing is Their wishes are that they do not want to be oppressed, enslaved, or persecuted, and they all want to be 'saved'. With this expectation, the person who appears to save them is the hero in their mind. ..."

"But, Dandan, whether it's your Faxiao, Xiaojie, or Zhang Ying, let's just say Wang Hong, they are all willing, and you are doing this just to satisfy your own inner expectations. So, your starting point is selfish..."

After hearing what Su Xiaowan said, Shen Jiadan was completely confused. Peng Cuiling and Nie Yunmei were confused after hearing what they said. They didn't understand what they were doing...

Only Shen Jiadan understood and understood. She never knew that she had such thoughts, and she had never explored her starting point.

In her opinion, all bad people and persecuted people should be saved, and she has done this since she was a child. She admires those brave heroes and omnipotent gods. ...

Therefore, she has liked to fight against injustices since she was a child, and she has a dream of being a knight, otherwise she would not be attracted to Song Yonghui. Moreover, everyone highly praises her behavior and thinks that she is a good child who is brave enough to do what is right.

However, no one had ever told her that doing so was a selfish act, which made her very angry. What made her even more embarrassed was that by asking her own heart, she found that what Su Xiaowan said was actually right.

This caused her to fall into an extreme panic, and she began to doubt whether all the decisions she made were selfish. She had always been a good child, and was praised by others. No matter how naughty she was, but when others In her heart, she is still a lively, cheerful, playful, sincere and kind good child. However, today someone said something bad about her and said she was selfish, which made it difficult for her to accept...

Su Xiaowan observed Shen Jiadan carefully, and when she saw her frowning and thinking for a while, she knew that she might be trapped in her own ideological battle.

Su Xiaowan knows that it is not easy to change a person's concept, but you always have to try when it is not easy. Otherwise, Shen Jiadan's future life cannot be said to be very bad, but there will always be trouble.

Su Xiaowan knows best who her second cousin Song Yonghui is. He is not the kind of person who likes to meddle in other people's affairs and helps those who are in need. Compared with these, second cousin Song Yonghui is very organized and has a bottom line in his work. Therefore, this may also be the case. A point of conflict between them cannot be ignored now that Su Xiaowan has encountered it.

So, he continued: "Dandan, we all know that you are a sweet-tempered person. There is nothing wrong with you like to fight against injustice. Everyone praises you for being brave when you see justice. Each of us has a selfish heart, and everything we do is , many times they put their own interests first, which is normal..."

"However, our selfishness cannot be based on the pain of others. If that were the case, it would be very immoral. Therefore, when we do what we like and do what we are loyal to our hearts, we must have a certain degree of restraint. It will be painful if you have too much, and it will be painful if you have too much, so you have to weigh it carefully..."

"And in my opinion, you are just a little bit too mature now. That's why you are in pain. If you don't help them, it will be even more painful. You want to help them to relieve your pain and increase your sense of pleasure and accomplishment. ..."

"But in fact, they don't need your help. They don't want it. As the old saying goes, you are too lenient..."

After listening to Su Xiaowan's words, Shen Jiadan felt extremely ashamed. He didn't feel anything before, but now he seemed to have woken up. It really felt like he was being too lenient.

At this moment, his whole face was even redder. He was not angry, but was ashamed. He said awkwardly with a flat belly: "Xiaowan, I, I heard what you said, it seems, it seems that you really mean that, but , but why have I never discovered it?”

"I used to be in trouble and didn't understand why they were like this. Even though I was like this and tried my best to help, they still refused to accept it. I felt that it was all their fault. I put the blame on them and I was aggrieved about it. , I was so angry that I felt that they were ungrateful and regarded their kindness as the liver and lungs of a donkey. A dog biting Lu Dongbin did not recognize a good heart..."

"But, now, I realized that it seemed that I had forced it..."

Su Xiaowan and others felt better when they saw Shen Jiadan say this, and finally understood. It was not easy.

Su Xiaowan even smiled and took Shen Jiadan's little hand and said, "Dandan, I'm so happy for you. It's great that you have figured it out..."