Rebirth of Siheyuan starts in the 1980s

Qiao Simei's crying, fussing and complaining instantly made the three Cao family members at the table feel embarrassed, but the direction of the embarrassment was slightly different.

As Qiao Simei's biological sister, Cao Lili's embarrassment is simple. She simply thinks that this sister is too embarrassed. She actually quarreled with a group of children on such an occasion, and when she lost, she came crying and complained. It was too shameful.

Cao Zhiqiang's embarrassment was a little complicated, but he didn't think too much about it.

He just felt that the person who bullied Qiao Simei was his nephew, and his nephew's mother was watching right here, and the palms and backs of her hands were full of flesh, so it was inappropriate for him to help anyone.

In other words, if it were other adults who bullied Qiao Simei, and Qiao Simei took charge, Cao Zhiqiang would have stood up and vented his anger on Qiao Simei.

But it was his two nephews who bullied Qiao Simei. The most important thing was that they were both children. They only quarreled verbally and did not take action, so it was difficult for him to step forward.

It's not that Cao Zhiqiang has any special feelings towards those two nephews.

But Cao Zhiqiang thinks that this is a problem between a group of naughty kids.

It is best for children to solve their own problems. If adults intervene hastily, it may be counterproductive.

Although Qiao Simei behaves like a little adult all day long, she is still a ten-year-old child after all.

For such a child, if you take her words as an adult, then there is something really wrong.

Compared to Cao Lili and Cao Zhiqiang, Cao Jiajia's embarrassment is a little more complicated, or the most complicated.

Because the targets of Qiao Simei's accusation were her two children, and it seemed that her own children were talking nonsense, saying that outsiders were not outsiders, and making people cry, this made Cao Jiajia a little embarrassed.

You know, just because Cao Jiajia's two children are ignorant does not mean that Cao Jiajia is also ignorant.

Yes, in terms of blood relationship, Cao Jiajia and Cao Zhiqiang are indeed siblings. In theory, Cao Zhiqiang's relationship with Cao Jiajia should be better than his relationship with Cao Lili and that Qiao Simei.

But in reality, distance is not calculated in this way.

In addition to blood relationships, there are other similar feelings in this world, which are not necessarily worse than blood relationships.

To put it bluntly, Cao Jiajia has not been back for more than ten years, and she is a girl married outside. In a sense, she is no longer a serious member of the Cao family, and it is not bad to say that she is an outsider.

Why does Cao Jiajia insist that this family dinner must only be held by members of the Cao family with the surname Cao? Isn't it just to use this method to highlight that she is a member of the Cao family and to build a closer relationship with Cao Zhiqiang?

To be more precise, although Cao Lili and Cao Zhiqiang are not related by blood, they have lived together for a long time, taking care of each other and caring about each other. They are no longer biological brothers and sisters, but better than biological brothers and sisters.

It is because of this realization that Cao Jiajia praised Cao Lili in various ways. In fact, she wanted to gain Cao Zhiqiang's approval and consolidate her status by acknowledging her relatives.

In this sense, although Qiao Simei is not a member of the Cao family, she has lived here for a long time, and her relationship with Cao Zhiqiang is definitely deeper than that of her biological sister, let alone her two nephews.

Therefore, in terms of relationship distance, among the people here, Cao Lili must have the closest relationship with Cao Zhiqiang, followed by Qiao Simei, and then her biological sister.

As the saying goes, if you have no desires, you will be strong.

If Cao Jiajia wants nothing from Cao Zhiqiang, of course she doesn't need to care about this.

But the problem is that Cao Jiajia wants something from Cao Zhiqiang, and her current plans are all dependent on her younger brother.

Whether it's Cao Jiajia's food, clothing, housing and transportation, her work arrangements, her husband's job transfer and her children's schooling, they all now depend on Cao Zhiqiang.

One after another, none of them are easy to handle.

Why does Cao Zhiqiang have to go through all the trouble to do this? Isn't it just because of the family relationship?

But if there is a problem with this family relationship and Cao Zhiqiang feels that his sister is ignorant, that will be troublesome.

If Cao Zhiqiang really lets go, Cao Jiajia's family will be in big trouble, and they may even have no way out.

When she thought of this, Cao Jiajia immediately put the kuaizi on the table and stood up with a livid face.

This moment, it startled Qiao Simei, who was crying loudly, and instinctively leaned towards her sister.

Sure enough, at the critical moment, Qiao Simei trusted her sister the most.

"unacceptable!"

After Cao Jiajia said this with a livid face, she immediately looked at Qiao Simei: "Simei, right? Don't be afraid. Auntie asked you, did Wenfang and Wenxuan really say that about you? Did they really say that you were an outsider? No.

From the Cao family?"

"Yeah!" Qiao Simei nodded with tears on her face, "That's what they said! They also said that my surname is Qiao, not Cao, and I can't come here to eat with you, then I'm not Cao.

The people in the family are outsiders, so they are not as good as them."

Upon hearing this, Cao Jiajia slammed the table angrily, and then began to roll up her sleeves slowly: "Okay, how dare you say that? Just wait, I will vent my anger on you, and I will beat these two nonsense little bastards to death!

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After saying that, Cao Jiajia rolled up her sleeves and rushed out.

When she saw this situation, Cao Lili was the first to become anxious, and she stood up and said, "Sister, please don't! It's not a big deal."

Cao Zhiqiang blinked and stood up immediately, just in time to block Cao Jiajia's way: "Sister, don't go. Children are making trouble, why are you, an adult, making trouble with them?"

"Zhiqiang, get out of the way!" Cao Jiajia said with a livid face, looking at Cao Zhiqiang who was blocking the door, "It is said that teaching a child in front of others is like killing a child!

If these two bastards dare to talk like this, I must deal with them in public!

Otherwise, they don’t know how to remember!

Get out of the way, I will beat them to death this time!"

Cao Zhiqiang did not leave, but directly held Cao Jiajia's shoulders with both hands to prevent Cao Jiajia from leaving.

Immediately afterwards, Cao Zhiqiang advised: "Sister, I understand what you mean, but the old saying is not necessarily true.

Let's just talk about Wenfang and Wenxuan. If they really said those words, it would be inappropriate, but they would be fine if they were taught a lesson in public.

Although they are young, they still have self-esteem. If you teach them a lesson in front of so many of us, they will definitely feel humiliated and uncomfortable, and their self-esteem will definitely be hit hard."

"Huh, embarrassing? It's uncomfortable, that's right!" Cao Jiajia said loudly, "When they teamed up to bully Simei, why didn't they think about Simei's feelings?

Huh, everyone is older than Simei, but they gang up to bully a little girl. Is this ridiculous?

I see, he has been out for a long time and his temper has become wild.

Zhiqiang, get out of the way and leave this matter alone!

Dutiful sons emerge from the stick, I must deal with them today, otherwise how can I explain to my little girl?"

Cao Zhiqiang used force again to stop Cao Jiajia from walking out.

"Sister, please sit down first, sit down and talk!"

After forcefully pressing Cao Jiajia onto the chair where he was sitting, Cao Zhiqiang said:

"Sister, everything you said is right. Children have problems and must be educated. Sometimes they have to be beaten when they need to be beaten.

But I still want to say that it is okay to educate children, but we must also pay attention to methods, especially don’t beat our children in front of us.

why?

Because this will have a deep psychological shadow on children, making them hate us, and may even be counterproductive and cause them to have rebellious psychology."

"Then what should we do?" Cao Jiajia said angrily, "Did they bully Simei and just ignore it?"

"Of course you can't ignore it." Cao Zhiqiang looked at Qiao Simei who had stopped crying, "But you can't beat the child in public."

After a pause, Cao Zhiqiang said: "Well, sister, you need to calm down here first, and I'll go out to take a look and ask about the situation.

If it is indeed their fault, then I will try to persuade them first and ask them to come over and apologize.

If these two kids don't listen to my reasoning, how about you wait until we leave and then beat them as you please, even if your butts bleed and bloom, but just don't beat them in front of us?"

Upon hearing this, Cao Jiajia frowned and then nodded: "Okay, you are their uncle, you can try it. If they don't listen to you, I will beat them hard when I turn around, and I will give you and Simei an explanation."

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As soon as Cao Zhiqiang heard this, he understood that the main reason why Cao Jiajia was so excited and angry, or in other words, the reason why she did this, was to give herself an explanation.

To put it bluntly, Cao Jiajia was so angry because she was afraid of offending herself and for her own sake, never for her children.

But this is normal. Isn’t this what the adult world is like?

But Cao Zhiqiang didn't want to let several children endure a beating that they shouldn't have to endure because of these things.

It is bullshit in Cao Zhiqiang's opinion to teach children in front of others and produce filial sons under the stick.

Cao Zhiqiang also came here as a child. When he was a child in his previous life, he was beaten by his father in front of a group of people.

The situation at that time is still fresh in Cao Zhiqiang's memory. The unforgettable shame was really uncomfortable.

The so-called teaching children in front of others, to put it bluntly, is just for the sake of the adults' face, but it ignores the children's heart.

Educating children is not like this.

Cao Zhiqiang can't control others, but he still wants to try to save his own relatives.

At the very least, you should first ask the person the real situation, and then try to reason with them. If the reason doesn't make sense, it's not too late to fight.

What Qiao Simei said before was just her side of the story and may not necessarily be the truth of the matter.

Others don't know Qiao Simei, but Cao Zhiqiang knows her very well. This person has been troubled since childhood.

So at this time, the more important it is to stay calm and figure things out first, and then do what you need to do. You can't just assume that everything Qiao Simei said is right.

Sure enough, after being persuaded by Cao Zhiqiang, Cao Jiajia temporarily calmed down.

Also, speaking of it, Cao Jiajia wouldn't be willing to beat her own children if it weren't for her own face and concern for Cao Zhiqiang's thoughts.

Now that Cao Zhiqiang said so, Cao Jiajia would of course be happy to borrow Po Xia Donkey.

In this way, Cao Zhiqiang asked Cao Jiajia to continue sitting and comfort Qiao Simei, while he left the room and went to the small table room where Xia Wenfang and Xia Wenxuan were staying.

Seeing Cao Zhiqiang's sudden appearance, Xia Wenfang and Xia Wenxuan were both a little uneasy.

Also, although they seemed very calm before, they also knew that this uncle could not be offended, and they also knew that Qiao Simei had gone to file a complaint before.

It's just that they thought that their mother would help them settle things like in the past, but they didn't expect that it was their uncle who came out now and their mother didn't, which was a bit uneasy.

Seeing the scared expressions of the two children, Cao Zhiqiang first smiled: "Don't be afraid, I just want to find out the truth of the matter."

Having said this, Cao Zhiqiang, who had already walked up to the two children, took the initiative to sit down on a stool, and then smiled at Xia Wenfang and Xia Wenxuan who were standing opposite:

"Let's do this, tell your uncle the complete story of the conflict between you and Qiao Simei, okay?"

Seeing that Cao Zhiqiang looked kind and didn't look like he was here to ask questions, Xia Wenxuan and Xia Wenfang looked at each other and nodded.

Immediately afterwards, Xia Wenxuan, the younger brother, was the first to speak, and Xia Wenfang supplemented beside him, telling him bit by bit what had happened before.

Of course, these two children are not stupid either. They mainly said that it was Qiao Simei who started to cause trouble, forcing them to call her aunt and insisting that they be a generation below her. They were not happy, so they retorted.

As for the matter of Qiao Simei being an outsider, I ignored it lightly, not that I didn't mention it, but I only mentioned it just to make her angry, because I couldn't stand her arrogance.

After hearing the cause and effect, Cao Zhiqiang probably understood.

Speaking of which, this was indeed the problem Qiao Simei found first.

Qiao Simei was obviously younger than these two children, and it was their first time meeting her, so their relationship was not very close, but she insisted on them calling her aunt because she wanted to treat her as an elder.

In the eyes of children, this must be a great shame and humiliation, and of course they will not be happy about it.

"I understand." Cao Zhiqiang nodded, "Qiao Simei said that when she came up, asking you to call her aunt is a bit excessive, but you can just stop calling her. How can you bully her and say she is an outsider?"

"I'm not wrong." Xia Wenxuan said unconvinced, "Her surname is Qiao, not Cao. She is not from the Cao family in the first place. Of course she is an outsider! Is it wrong to tell the truth?"

Cao Zhiqiang smiled slightly: "Yes, her surname is not Cao, but she is my sister's sister, and I have always regarded her as my own sister, so from this perspective, Qiao Simei is my family, not an outsider.

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Your mistake is that you define and label others without knowing the truth. This is wrong!

Since you are wrong, you must admit your mistake.

In this way, you can go back with me and apologize to her, admit your mistake, and this matter will be over, okay?"

Xia Wenxuan frowned and said: "Then it's not wrong for her to ask us to call her aunt? Humph, she insists on being our elder and a head above us. Is this right?"

Cao Zhiqiang smiled: "Strictly speaking, it's not wrong for Qiao Simei to ask you to call her aunt, because in terms of seniority, she is my sister and I am your uncle, so she thinks she is your aunt. That's okay.

What’s the problem?”

Speaking of this, seeing Xia Wenxuan's face turn red and seeming a little dissatisfied, Cao Zhiqiang said again:

"Of course, although this is the case in theory, Qiao Simei is indeed younger than you and not very familiar with you, but she shows off her authority as an elder when we meet her, and her attitude when speaking to you is not good. This is indeed her

's mistake.

Her fault was that she disrespected you and had an arrogant attitude, which was also the trigger of this conflict.

So, one code equals the other, you must admit your mistakes, and she must also admit her mistakes.

And I personally think that Qiao Simei's mistake is bigger. After all, she was the one who found trouble in the first place.

But after all, she is the youngest, right?

The younger you are, the less sensible you are, and the easier it is for you to say the wrong things and do the wrong things.

You are older children, so you can't have the same experience as children younger than you, right?

In this way, you go and apologize to Qiao Simei first, and then I will ask her to apologize to you.

Is it okay for both parties to apologize to each other and reconcile?"

Xia Wenxuan frowned and pouted, seeming a little dissatisfied.

But Xia Wenfang, who was older and more sensible, tugged on Xia Wenxuan's sleeve and shook her head at Xia Wenxuan.

Seeing his sister like this, Xia Wenxuan took two deep breaths, and then nodded reluctantly: "Okay, since uncle said so, I, I will just listen."

"Very good!" Cao Zhiqiang smiled and touched the tops of the two children's heads.

"Come with me. It's better to resolve enemies than to end them. It's just a small conflict. Apologize to each other and we will still be good friends in the future!"