Save the Bachelor of Heaven

Xiang Nan then called Xia Junshan and asked him out for a drink.

At this time, Xia Junshan already knew about the conflict between his daughter and Mi Tao, and he didn't know what to do.

After hearing Xiang Nan's invitation, he immediately agreed.

The two then made an appointment to meet at a bar.

"Junior brother, what's going on with Huanhuan and Mi Tao?" Xia Junshan asked suspiciously.

Xiang Nan immediately explained how Huanhuan isolated Mi Tao in a small circle and sent out the "Letter to Parents" to deliberately not give Mi Tao.

Xia Junshan was embarrassed when he heard this.

"Is this... is this... what Huanhuan did?" He couldn't believe it.

In his opinion, his daughter is as cute as an angel. But now the angel has turned into a demon, and it's simply too abominable to engage in a small circle of bullying classmates.

"Brother, children are also very complicated." Xiang Nan nodded and said.

In fact, compared with adults, children tend to behave more cruelly than adults due to lack of moral and social rules.

For example, campus bullying often forces people to kneel, strip their clothes, and slap them. Such extreme violence is rare in society.

"How could this happen? I can't believe it." Xia Junshan sighed.

It was really unexpected for his daughter to become so bad.

"Brother, water has source and tree has roots. Huanhuan and Mi Tao were good friends before, but now the relationship has become so bad, there must be a reason." Xiang Nan said, "Could it be when you were teaching her?" , always comparing Mi Tao with her, that's why Huanhuan feels angry and hates Wu Wu Wu?"

In the play, Huanhuan hates Mi Tao for this reason.

When Xia Junshan heard this, he was taken aback for a moment, remembering that when Nan Li was instructing Huanhuan in her homework, she always used Mi Tao as an example to let her daughter learn from her.

Perhaps it is precisely this that makes her daughter feel resentful towards Mi Tao.

"Just be a role model, can't it be like this?" Xia Junshan said with a smile, "When we were in school, the teachers and parents used other people's children to motivate us. After we listened, we only had to learn from them. Son, I didn't say that I want to form a small circle to isolate others."

Who didn't compare with other children when they were in school.

"Brother, with all due respect, we can, but Huanhuan can't." Xiang Nan waved his hands and said, "You and sister-in-law have been insisting on happy education these years, but you only care about making your children happy, but you forgot to educate them about setbacks.

Life is often unsatisfactory, and setbacks are the main theme of life. But these years, Huanhuan has been too smooth. If you don't study hard, you can rank in the middle and upper reaches. The election of class cadres is always the deputy squad leader. I often participate in various literary competitions in the city, and I can easily win an award...

Compared with other children, Huanhuan is really happy, but the more so, the more difficult it is for her to bear when she encounters setbacks. For example, in the first half of the year, when she lost the election for class president, she was lost for several days.

So when we are compared with other people's children, we may be dissatisfied and arouse our competitive spirit. When Huanhuan is compared with other children, the reaction may be more intense, and what is aroused is not competitiveness, but jealousy and resentment. "

Hearing Xiang Nan say this about his child, although Xia Junshan was a little unhappy, he had to admit that what he said made sense.

Over the years, they have loved Huanhuan too much.

Father, mother, grandpa, grandma, younger brother, school teachers, work colleagues...every one counts, they all praise the child for being smart, beautiful and cute, and spoil her like a little princess.

It can be said that Huanhuan grew up in a honeypot for so many years. Because of this, her endurance is extremely fragile.

Crying at the bottom of the exam, crying as the vice-president when not selected, crying when not entering the competition class, crying when being scolded if you don't study hard...it's just a crying bag.

"Then what should we do?" Xia Junshan hurriedly asked for advice.

"First of all, of course, we must sincerely admit our mistakes and apologize." Xiang Nan said, "Secondly, we must pay attention to the child's setback education and improve her ability to withstand stress.

Brother, Huanhuan is only in the fifth grade now, and there are at least eleven years before he graduates from university and grows up. During this period, she had to go through the two major life difficulties of the high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination. If her ability to withstand stress is still as poor as it is now, I'm afraid it will be difficult for her to overcome these two difficulties. "

The learning pressure in middle school is dozens or hundreds of times that of primary school. The number of courses to be studied has increased from three to nine. If the ability to resist pressure is not strong, junior high school will not be able to keep up.

When Xiang Nan was in school, junior high school had the highest dropout rate.

When I was in the first grade of junior high school, there were six classes in total, each class had as many as sixty students, and it was packed to the brim. When I was in the third grade of junior high school, it had been reduced to four classes, and each class had only more than forty students, which was more than half.

After hearing this, Xia Junshan nodded.

...

At the same time, Zhang Xueer also drove to Mi Tao's house.

I saw Mi Tao being scolded by her parents.

"You can still be patient, your parents took you to the city so easily, you don't say study hard, how can you still fight with Huanhuan?" Mi Tao's father scolded.

"She bullied me first." Mi Tao said, "I'm just showing my attitude, otherwise everyone will bully me."

"Then why doesn't she bully others? It's your fault." Mi Tao's father said.

"It's not my fault that people bullied me, it's her fault that she bullied me." Mi Tao said immediately after hearing this.

"You are still stubborn, Mom and Dad are saving food and money for you to study, you don't study hard, and even fight with your classmates, are you reasonable?" Mi Tao's father said angrily, "Can't you understand something?"

"Why do you always make me sensible? It's her fault for bullying me." Mi Tao cried, "She led her classmates to isolate me, took the lead in class and didn't observe discipline, and deliberately didn't send me homework... She was the one who did the wrong thing Man, why do you only want me to bear it?"

"You still said, you still said..." Mi Tao's father raised his hand and said fiercely.

Seeing this, Zhang Xueer quickly knocked on the door.

"Yo, it's Teacher Zhang~" Mi Tao's mother quickly pulled her husband's hand off when she saw this, and then walked over to open the door, "Hello, Teacher Zhang~"

"Mr. Zhang, you're here~" Mi Tao's father said in embarrassment.

"Yes, I'll come and see Mi Tao, and I'll tell you what happened this afternoon." Zhang Xueer nodded, and then told the ins and outs.

"Hey, it turned out that it was a child who was making trouble. It's okay, it will be fine in a while." After hearing this, Mi Tao's parents didn't take it seriously.

After all, in the countryside, it is common for children to fight.

"Father Mi Tao, this matter is more serious than you think. Huanhuan's actions to Mi Tao can be regarded as school violence. You can't take it lightly, let alone tolerate it." Zhang Xueer waved her hand and said, " There was nothing wrong with Mi Tao in this matter. The biggest mistake was that she should not push Xia Huanhuan. At that time, Mi Tao should have told the teacher what Huanhuan had done, and the teacher would help her.

But she was able to stand up bravely and express her opinions clearly. This is something to be encouraged. You know, many children are afraid to speak up after being bullied, so that they get bullied more and more later. "

A lot of campus violence is gradual, from verbal violence to physical violence, and even eventually causing death, so it has to be guarded against.

"It was Teacher Zhong who encouraged me. If I am being bullied, I have to stand up and show my attitude." Mi Tao nodded.

"You are right." Zhang Xueer nodded.