The days of being a spiritual mentor in Meiman

Batman seemed to find it difficult to accept this, but suddenly he remembered the dark figure, and he asked: "Did he do this? I mean me in another universe."

"He is perfect." Schiller commented: "You may think that he is an emotionless machine, too dark to bear to look at, but he is not emotionless, but he understands that it is necessary to show his feelings to certain people. It’s just passing the knife, there is no need, it will only hurt others and yourself.”

"He even restrained himself from showing too much emotion to the people closest to him, because the harm caused by his callousness to these people was much lower than the harm caused by him showing his emotions to shake the other party and lead to catastrophe."

"Is this something taught in books?"

"Obviously not. It's a lesson learned in blood and tears."

"Okay." Batman showed some helplessness. He said, "I don't want to become such a monster, but I will try my best to be more normal. Do you have any other suggestions for me?"

"Of course, I will continue." Schiller took another sip of grape juice to moisten his throat, and then said: "After doing the above points, you can basically socialize like a normal person. Generally speaking, you become Not so annoying anymore.”

"But to become likeable, to be precise, to use other people's real good impressions of you to satisfy your lonely heart, you need some more special skills."

“Can I please?”

"Of course, it's not even what it seems on the surface." Schiller said: "Generally speaking, there will be different countermeasures for people with different identities, but I can tell you a few common ones, and they correspond to the above countermeasures. It is said to be an advanced version of the behavioral countermeasures above.”

"Okay, I'll try to write it down in the... uh, Bat Social Handbook."

"First of all, guide others to talk to you about their troubles instead of sharing joy, and refuse anyone to tell you good things or not."

"The operation method is also very simple. When you ask how he is doing recently, if the person says he is not bad, you just say he has lost weight and you think he has something to worry about recently."

"If he really hasn't lost weight or denies that he has lost weight, then say that you heard his voice is a little hoarse and whether he talks too much recently. If he doesn't say anything, then say that he always blinks and his eyes look a little bit... Damn, didn’t you sleep well?”

"If that doesn't work, then walk over and pat him on the shoulder with an expression of 'I understand you'. If he still doesn't speak in the end, then you'll have to offer some advice."

"It usually starts with a sigh and 'I'm not as lucky as you' and ends with 'I really envy you for being so lucky.' As long as the other person is not a social idiot, he will usually tell you a few polite words about his recent troubles."

"Why is this?" Batman obviously didn't understand.

"Because for smart people, hiding their clumsiness is a basic skill. Most people don't particularly want to attract attention. Some even want others to think that they are not doing well. If you guide them in this way, you will fulfill their wishes and give them a From the beginning, let them establish their own persona in front of the public, which will make them feel smooth and relaxed on a social level, similar to sleeping on a pillow. "

"And the most important thing is that not everyone has happy events, but everyone has worries. Once the topic is completely biased towards happy events, there will only be a few bragging people talking about it, and the entire social situation will become In their world, others remain silent, or are jealous but do not express it.”

"Jealousy is not an emotion that can be easily hidden. Once someone can't stand it anymore, they will inevitably make sarcastic remarks and pour cold water on others. Then a good social occasion will turn into a quarrel, and the atmosphere will be difficult to control. ”

"But if you lead people to talk about something they are sad about, most people who don't want to expose themselves as heartless and meaningless will say a few words of comfort. Even if it is just a verbal expression, it is some very perfunctory words of comfort, at least not enough. It will offend people’s taboos, and it may even give people strength.”

"But what about some people who want to take this opportunity to express their achievements? For example, to comfort others and talk about their past..."

"Are you talking about you?"

"Well……"

Batman began to think frantically about whether he had done this before. He swore that it might have been two times, maybe three times, but definitely not more than five times.

"This depends on your ability to control the field. If you feel that you have done your best to be kind enough here, then don't speak anymore. Anyway, it is him who offended the person, not you. But if you have something serious to say next, If you don’t want him to talk eloquently here, you can do some moral kidnapping.”

"Moral kidnapping?"

"Yes, it's similar to 'so-and-so is already like this, so don't mention that.' If the other party is sensible, they will usually say, 'I am doing it for his own good,' and the matter will be over."

"What if you don't know what's interesting?"

"Then you have to take some extreme measures. If you have a good conscience, then praise him to attract hatred. You must praise him until those who are unhappy with him completely hate him."

"If you don't have that much of a grudge against him, you can openly praise or secretly criticize him and let him bring trouble on himself. For example, 'You were really good at doing this back then and the scene was too big. I and so-and-so cleaned up some things for you. Months of mess!”

Batman nodded vigorously. He knew how to do this. What he was best at was settling old scores. There was no old score in the Justice League that he couldn't settle.

Then Schiller went on to say: "When you decline something and need an excuse, follow three principles. First, the subject of the difficulty is not you. Second, succumbing to the difficulty is not your subjective will. Third, you I feel bad about it too.”

"To be specific, never use the excuse that you are busy, because you are still the main subject of the matter of being busy. People will think about it more and more times, why are you so busy?"

"Even if you are really busy and can't be there, you have to change the story. For example, your boss is too unkind and you really can't get away. In this way, the subject becomes the boss or the subordinate. If you make a mistake at work, you have to stay and make up for it, so the main body becomes a subordinate. "

"Then you have to emphasize that what happened at your important moment was not my subjective wish, and it was not even caused by me in the slightest. Everything is due to the injustice of God and the misfortune of your fate."

"For example, when you mention this matter later, you can just lament that if you had studied hard in college you could have entered a better company, and you would not have had to suffer such oppression, or if you had seen through the character of your superiors and subordinates earlier and avoided making these mistakes. You will never miss a wonderful moment.”

"Anyway, you just want to express that it's really not what you want if you don't go."

"Then the next step is to progress your emotions and express that you are really sorry, sad, and sad. Not attending this event has become a permanent hole in your life. No matter how much you make up for in the future, you will remember it for life. ”

"Isn't this too exaggerated?" Batman said.

"Don't be so straightforward." Schiller smiled and said, "You can polish it, or mix it into a lot of words, and mention it occasionally when you think of it. This process can even last from several months to several years. Wait, even start mentioning it as soon as you see him, even mention it until he feels guilty. "

"Too dark," Batman commented.

"Okay, let's talk about the last point." Schiller drank the wine in the glass, and then said: "If someone mentions you and discredits you in an occasion where you are not around, don't explain or refute, or even do the other way around. Instead of discrediting him, help him explain.”

Batman narrowed his eyes and said, "For example?"

"Suppose A said that you were too unsympathetic when you were away, and you didn't help B when he was in trouble. He really misjudged you, and another person relayed these words to you."

"Then you absolutely don't say, 'I'm not that kind of person. I helped C, D, and E with great care when they were in trouble.' Don't say, 'A is all nonsense,' or 'A's words are not trustworthy at all. '.

"So……"

"What you want to say is, 'Actually, I always think that overflowing sympathy is not a good thing. A has suffered losses before. It is obviously not a very clever scam. Just because he was fooled by overflowing sympathy, he almost harmed C, D, E, of course this is my personal opinion, A is too kind, he just wants to help others."

Schiller spread his hands and said: "In line with the principle that whoever explains is at a disadvantage, although he is not here, you can't force him to explain, but you can help him explain, and because he is not here, the right to explain is all in your hands." ”

"But I think the other party will hear it, right?"

"It doesn't matter whether you hear it or not. What matters is your reaction. If you defend yourself subconsciously, the other party will only think you are weak and can be bullied. If you subconsciously slander others, the other party will also have the excuse for your vicious words."

"But if you act good for others, even if the other person sees that you have bad intentions, there is nothing he can do to expose you."

"You just need to remember that people who spread bad words about others are losers who cannot achieve positive social suppression, so they use other people's mouths to stimulate you."

"As long as he has the guts to expose you head-on, the words he says to smear you will not start with 'I heard so-and-so say it before.' Successful people have 110,000 ways to make you even more indefensible and in an embarrassing situation. "

"Like you?"

"I will cut in more gently." Schiller looked at the TV, and what he wanted to say was self-evident.

"Many times I think I know these things." Batman leaned back on the sofa and said, "In the books I read, when I face those people in the business world, I actually know these things."

"But when you become Batman, it's hard to talk about many things." Schiller nodded and said, "In other words, when you become your true self and regard the members of the Justice League as your true friends, you will feel If you use skills, won’t you get true friendship?”

"But I think that except for maternal love promoted by human hormones, there is no relationship in this world that does not require external force to maintain, whether it is earth-shaking love, friendship that lasts forever, or even family ties maintained by blood, they are all It takes skill to operate.”

"You think some people can win the sincerity of others without skills. It may just be because their skills are more hidden and natural, or they are born with these skills. His family and the environment in which he grew up make the skills of maintaining relationships a It’s his instinct, so he behaves effortlessly and effortlessly.”

"But as the saying goes, the stupid bird flies first. Not everyone has such good luck. If you can't do it naturally, then you have to at least do it. If you can't get deep true love, it's not a loss if you can get shallow happiness. "

"As for the scale..." Schiller fumbled with the cup and said, "If the satisfaction of your loneliness overcomes the fatigue of using skills, then it proves to be worth it. If on the contrary, you would rather enjoy loneliness than greet someone with a smile, then use your Batman's signature skills."

"What is that?"

"Annoying."

"What?"

"I mean, if possible, turn him into a clown."

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