The Perfect Hidden Marriage

\u003c!--Chapter content begins--\u003e 558, unrequited love 98, what is the purpose of marriage?

"Ode to Joy? What is that?"

Xiao Jinghuan asked curiously, feeling like singing.

"An urban women's workplace drama. Haven't you seen it?"

Xi Manli was quite surprised:

"It was very popular when it first aired."

"Uh, no, I've been staying abroad in the past few years, so I never follow domestic TV series. In fact, after I turned twenty, I rarely watch videos. If I do, I only watch crime documentaries. Well, you'd better tell me first, what kind of person is Qu Xiaoxiao?"

Xiao Jinghuan asked along the way, wanting to know who she was being compared to.

It was these few words that made Xi Manli truly feel how huge the difference in life and culture between her and Miss Xiao was, but she still gave a detailed introduction:

"That is a girl from a rich family, the second generation of the rich. She is good at playing and has some abilities. She dares to love and hate. She will stalk a certain man after she has spotted him. However, her cultural content is not high. She depends on people. But she is precise and straightforward, and she looks down on Fan Shengmei, another migrant girl who lives on the same floor.

"Because in Qu Xiaoxiao's eyes, Fan Shengmei is the kind of woman who wants to be rich and handsome. She works hard to squeeze into the so-called upper class society. Qu Xiaoxiao Privately, it is called plundering women.

"This cannot be said to be mean to Qu Xiaoxiao. It can only be said that it was a sharp collision between two cultures. Different social levels lead to different cultures. This is the naked reality.

"The best thing about this TV series is that it has a strong sense of empathy. The five girls it portrays have their own characteristics. No one is a bad person, and each has his own helplessness in life..."

Xiao Jinghuan listened and seemed to understand why she was so emotional, so she pointedly pointed out:

"Sister Xi, let me tell you, I am not some Qu Xiaoxiao, and you are not a prostitute either.

"Then, let's talk about what is a girl?

"The so-called hooker refers to a woman who abandons her dignity and uses her soul and body in exchange for money.

“What I have to admit is that there are quite a few such women in today’s society.

"But, Sister Xi, you are not, and you cannot have a sense of substitution in this aspect.

"I heard my mother say that you have been in the group for so many years, but you have never been in love... You have always been conscientious at work, and you have always been my mother and a good helper to my brother Changning. If you were that kind of person, my mother would have Fired you.

"My mother is very strict when it comes to hiring people."

Such certainty made Xi Manli very heart-warming, but:

"I do value material life. This is a fact. Otherwise, I wouldn't have hesitated because of Xu Chen's proposal. I should have agreed long ago. Xiao Xiao, you won't look down on me because of this! If you find a man who cares about material things, even if It’s not that I’m looking for girls, but if I think about it seriously, I’m still a little bit money-worshiping.”

Xiao Jinghuan shook her head and emphasized:

"No, this can't be regarded as worshiping money. It can only be said that as you get older, everything becomes more realistic.

"It's not like when I was young, I thought love was the most important, and everything else can be put aside and compromised. In the end, it's easy to be scarred by the real problems brought about by love.

“Actually, this reality is exactly a growth process in life.

"When you are looking for a man as you get older, you will consider your future development from many aspects. If the other person's conditions are average, you will consider whether your quality of life will decline if you get married and have children in the future.

“So, I think it’s normal for you to think this way.

"Water flows to lower place, man goes to higher position.

“I can only say that it is caused by your work circle.

"A woman hopes to marry a man she likes... This man must not only make himself comfortable with food and clothing, but also treat himself wholeheartedly and well.

"I think this is what many girls will have before getting married.

"Let me ask, who is willing to marry a man, and the end result is that he will be a free nanny for the rest of his life, and endure it until he is old... Everyone wants to be loved and pampered..."

For someone like her, who has seen a lot with her boss, has seen a lot, and broadened her horizons, it is inevitable that she will be too high or too low.

Xi Manli felt that these words spoke to her heart, and she sighed with regret:

"Yes, for a woman, why do you marry? She hopes to have someone to rely on and a stable life. If this man cannot give you stability and may become a burden to you, then why do you want to get married? Live alone. It’s also pretty good.”

This is how many leftover women came to be.

"Yes, yes, actually, what we should discuss is why we should get married?"

Xiao Jinghuan suddenly clapped her hands and shouted, feeling that this was the most important point worth studying, and immediately changed the topic:

"Sister Xi, what do you think the purpose of marriage is?

"Look at all these living beings, they grow up from little kids who don't understand anything. Eventually, most of them have to get married. Anyway, once you reach this age, not getting married becomes a strange thing."

"Were you also forced into marriage?"

Xi Manli asked curiously and immediately followed up on the topic.

"Yeah... So, I'm thinking, why do people have to get married?"

Xiao Jinghuan held her chin and sighed softly: "Sometimes I think that marriage gives two people a legitimate reason. You sleep with me and I sleep with you. An extra marriage certificate only adds a shackle of morality and responsibility. ."

Xi Manli listened and expressed her opinion:

"Yes, marriage requires a moral bottom line and responsibility, so it is sacred...

"I think marriage is a process in which two people who are in love with each other have a relatively consistent goal, are willing to let the other person participate in their lives, and allow themselves to be controlled by the other person and accompany the other person through a period of life.

"In this process, we must be responsible for each other, and we must never leave each other. No matter whether we are rich or poor, or whether we are sick or suffering...

"Because it takes a lifetime, and because people in this world are very different from each other, and because women's youth is limited, when women choose marriage, they always hope to find a partner with good conditions. Because women have to bear the pain of childbirth. If this man is not good enough and is not good enough to her, then why should she suffer physical pain and give birth to children for him?

“So, getting married is a process of finding someone who is suitable for you, someone who treats you well, sharing joys and sorrows together, raising children together, enriching life, and striving for life.

"Yes, that's it. A good material life is necessary, but the requirements cannot be too high, because spiritual life is more important: only those who can talk to each other can support each other for a lifetime..."

After Xiao Jinghuan heard this, she knocked on the table, pointed at her and smiled: "Look, look, do you still need me to analyze it for you? In fact, you have a very clear mind!"

Xi Manli was startled.

Xiao Jinghuan continued: "Now, let's go back and talk about your standards for selecting a mate that should not be too high or too low!

"Let's put it this way, men in our circle are usually very sharp when it comes to picking and choosing. There are a lot of people who want to have fun and find a suitable woman to live with, but their conditions Usually it will be very high. As for you, you can only be regarded as a marginalized person, and it is difficult to get into their eyes and hearts."

In her opinion, Xi Manli's conditions are average. There is nothing particularly outstanding about such a woman. In this circle, if you catch a lot of them, they are really ordinary:

“So, it’s really important to find your own position.

"If you want to be rich for the rest of your life, you can take a risk and get involved in this industry. There are some who do well, some who don't, and some who end up with a bloody head and a ruined reputation.

“If you want a stable home, find a stable man.

"This person is what you just said, a person who is suitable for you and treats you well. When you find this kind of man, your material standards will naturally have to be lowered.

"But to be honest, material life is not particularly important sometimes. Because material things can be created by oneself. It does not necessarily have to be completely dependent on men's giving.

“Just like our family, my dad and my mom, they have countless wealth, materially, they lack everything, but they don’t have a complete family.

"My dad has been rich all his life, but he has been poor all his life in marriage. His only wish so far is to have a close wife in his later years, so that he can live a comfortable and steady life.

"So, think about it, if the man who proposes to you is a man who can make you feel at ease, then accepting it and fighting together is better than locking yourself in an illusory circle and finding someone who may never A man who satisfies himself must be much stronger..."

Xi Manli listened quietly and suddenly understood what she was thinking.

In fact, what I want with her is stability.

If she just wanted money, she wouldn't have stayed in this position for so many years. After following Chairman Jin for so long, she had gone out to see some wealthy people. She had also secretly expressed her desire to develop a relationship with her. Of course, such development was mostly just a transaction of flesh and money, and she had not even thought about it. , isn't it because she is waiting for the stable person who is worthy of her efforts with that sincerity?

Maybe Xu Chen is not good enough, but he is stable and down-to-earth, and he allows her to have a home in Shanghai. He liked her more than ten years ago and is still interested in her more than ten years later. How can he still have feelings for such a long-lasting man? What's there to find fault with?

She had an epiphany: "One word shocked the dreamer. Xiao Xiao, I know what choice I should make."

Xiao Jinghuan listened and smiled softly: "Then let me congratulate you first: it is not easy to find a good husband."

Xi Manli nodded: "It is indeed not easy. Whether it is everything you want or not, you have to live your life to know. Xiao Xiao, now, I have another question to ask you."

Xiao Jinghuan saw that she was asking very seriously, and felt that her question was very important, so she had to answer it immediately:

"what is the problem?"

"How would a girl with your background choose a husband?"

Xi Manli brought the topic to her.