The Struggle of the Reborn Prince

In Carnegie's successful interpersonal communication thinking, an extremely important point is to follow the utilitarian principle in psychological communication. This principle is based on various human needs, including spiritual and material content, on this basis

, that is, interpersonal communication is an activity that meets people's needs.

Psychologist Homans once proposed that interactions between people are essentially a social exchange, that is, people hope that they can get no less than what they pay in communication. In fact, it is not just that what they get cannot be less than what they pay.

If what you get is greater than what you give, it will also cause people to be psychologically unbalanced.

Interpersonal communication should be reserved. A common mistake that people who are new to social circles make is to "do all good things at once" and think that doing things for the other person wholeheartedly will make the relationship harmonious and close. In fact, this is not the case. Because people cannot just keep it.

Accept other people's efforts, otherwise you will feel unbalanced. "A drop of water will repay you with a spring of water", which is also a way to balance your relationship. If you do all the good things at once, it will make people feel that they are unable to repay or have no chance to repay.

When it comes to guilt, the benefit will make the benefit of the party choose to distance themselves. Leave room for space and do all the good things in one go, which is also an important criterion for balancing interpersonal relationships.

If you want to help others and want to maintain a long-term relationship with others, then you might as well give others a chance appropriately so that others can get rewards, so that they will not alienate the relationship between the two parties due to inner pressure. "Overinvest" and do not give

The other party's chance to breathe will suffocate the other party's mind. Leave room for space and keep a proper distance so that each other can breathe freely and happily...

Zhao Qi seemed to have suddenly forgotten the unpleasantness that happened just now and in the past. Zhao Qi was handsome and decent, and Tong Guan was also free to talk, but Cai You seemed restrained, often looking around, not expressing his meaning, but just echoing with him. At this time, Cai You

I fell into confusion. Almost everyone in the entire officialdom of the Song Dynasty knew that Cai You and Prince Yan were incompatible. When Prince Yan was a child, he would not have planned it. Not only was his head almost cut off. He was also knocked

A large sum of money, two years ago, I finally came up with a way to kill his younger brother Cai Yan, but he turned it over with his intervention. It was because he was the prince that Cai You did not dare to deal with him openly, but Zhao

He also put a lot of effort into being sent to the northwest.

When Cai You was sent to the northwest as a special envoy of peace talks, he was nervous. Cai You understood the small actions he was doing below. Prince Yan could figure it out in a blink of an eye that if he reached his territory, he would have to be terrified.

But after arriving in Taiyuan, things were unexpected. Prince Yan was fighting outside and had no time to pay attention to him.

As the war develops, Cai You stayed there for two months. He found that Prince Yan not only did not seek fault with him, but also took good care of him. He had given him as usual, and was sent to the capital.

He would leave a copy of the battle report, and sometimes he would get some spoils for him as gifts. When reporting the merits, he would mention him a few words in the memorials and give him some credit. This made Cai You breathe a sigh of relief and felt relaxed.

. He gradually let go of the grudges between the two of them, and blamed all the things on Prince Yan's young and ignorant nature. However, he made a big joke with himself. Now he is sensible, and he also wants to make friends with Zhao Jie.

Cai You and Tong Guan have a different relationship. They are both family friends and good friends. Even Tong Guan's wife has an affair with him. The two teamed up to defeat Cai Jing. They helped him find a high position and agreed to attack Liao in the future.

He was recommended as the deputy commander and let him make new achievements. Even after he arrived in the northwest, although the two were far apart, Tong Guan still cared for him in every detail. He entrusted his disciples and former officials to take care of Cai You in every way.

Give money, give women, eat with him, drink with him, and play with him!

It can be said that only Cai You could not imagine, and nothing Tong Guan could not do, but Cai You did not feel much happiness when he got along with Tong Guan. After the imperial edict was issued, Tong Guan asked him to go with him, of course, to the battlefield.

It was very dangerous and also slandered Zhao Qiong, which made Cai You live with him with no choice. Seeing his poor guard drowning in Tong Guan's Shengjie army, he was in trouble.

He felt like he was kidnapped, although he also knew that Tong Guan had good intentions.

Cai You himself is also a great minister. He is also a man who is in the five Zhangs. He has arms and legs. He is neither stupid nor stupid. He is a healthy person with comprehensive development of morality, intelligence and physical fitness. He has just got rid of his father's wings and is protected by others.

Under the wings, I couldn't repay him. This made him feel uncomfortable and made him feel a little uneasy. The debts he owed would have to be paid back...

"Sir Cai, I have been in the border for a long time and know very little about the matter in the capital. I don't know what the court has to say about the Western Expedition?" After three rounds of wine, Zhao Qi put down his glass and asked, "This time he didn't call him a little girl."

Cai, instead of calling him his position, although Cai You was not very good at all, he still valued this "Grandmaster".

"Now the northwest is victorious. Not only is the emperor very happy, but the people in the capital are also ecstatic. All countries have submitted congratulatory statements, believing that victory will return to our Song Dynasty. The heavenly soldiers gathered in the streets and alleys. The soldiers entered Xingzhou and captured the Xia Lord.

', The two are so famous that they are so famous!" Cai You praised loudly, and breathed a sigh of relief, thinking that this child has grown up, and he is not as good as Xiao Cai or Xiao Cai, otherwise he would have been in front of many people.

It's really hard to agree.

"Oh, this is not a good thing. Now the imperial edict of peace talks is that the people are very eager to do so, and the atmosphere is ambition and joy, and they are in a state of turmoil. They sing triumphantly everywhere, as if they are drunk. Under such circumstances, those who propose peace talks are regarded as being against the country.

, As executors, we will be scolded by the people!" Tong Guan sighed.

"What the Taiwei said is very true. At this time, everyone believed that the peace between Song and Xia was only beneficial to Xixia, and it was his conspiracy to get rid of the predicament of defeat. But who knows how much sand we those of us in front ate, how many people died, and how much consumed

Money and grain are so difficult to win. I can’t beat anyone. Whoever wants to scold me, I just don’t care anyway!” Zhao Qi shook his head and smiled bitterly and said.

"Yes, Prince Yan fought all the way from Hedong to Lingzhou, and destroyed the 100,000 troops of Xixia with 50,000 troops. The killing of Cha Ge lost his armor and almost died in Hedong, although... although he failed to capture him

Xingzhou, such a great victory is unprecedented in our dynasty. Whenever I hear the dead husband and the waiter crying without a son in Taiyuan, I feel sad. If I can climb to the head of Xingzhou, I will also be for these dead people.

Consolation, but..." Cai You wiped his tears with his sleeves, his face full of sorrow, and sighed with deep sympathy.

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