Yuan Shen: I was reincarnated as the daughter of the Dragon King Ruo Tuo

The more precious things are, the more careful they must be cared for, which is human nature.

In the heart of the fish, the self who has karma and is good at killing is ominous and filthy.

And Ruoling is just a child who has not been born for a long time.

She is pure and kind.

The better Ruo Ling treats him, the brighter the light it emits and the more reluctant the Rays are to come into contact with her.

Because he did not want his karma to pollute the pure heart of the child.

Ruo Ling was his junior, like a flawless treasure, and he wanted to stay away from her and protect her.

After all, she called him Uncle Wei and came all the way to care about his body....

She really respected him as family.

Then how could he pollute this child.

Of course, the reason why Wei is hiding from Ruo Ling also has a lot to do with his cold and distant personality.

If Ling has studied a little psychology, she knows two kinds of psychological knowledge and theories.

One is causality and the other is teleology.

What is causality and what is teleology?

For example, a child who has been bullied for a long time, is introverted, does not want to go out, and is at home all day.

Then, the experience of being bullied in the past is [cause], and now he is introverted and does not want to go out, which is [fruit].

Because he was bullied before, he was timid and introverted and did not want to go out, which is the [causal theory] that is currently more accepted by the mainstream.

If the behavior of the fish is explained by causality, then it can be said that he is because of his past experience, which has led to his current cold personality and reluctance to contact people.

But causality also has drawbacks, which holds that who you are in the moment depends on your past experiences.

And the past cannot be changed, so it is difficult for you to change now.

Teleology, on the other hand, is the complete opposite of causality.

There is a classic example of teleology called "18 degrees of well water".

The water in the well is 18 degrees Celsius at all times, but drinking well water in summer will feel cool, and drinking it in winter will feel cold.

Water is still that water, drink it in different seasons, but it is a different feeling.

The same is true of experiences, the experience itself is not important, what matters is what meaning you give the experience.

The same bullying and isolation, ten years later, some people are still depressed and difficult to let go.

Some people, on the other hand, smiled dumbly, because this experience of being bullied made him learn to fight loneliness early.

Because I have suffered bitterly, I will cherish the sweetness of sugar.

Because of that experience of being bullied, when he met a sincere friendship, he felt so happy and sweet.

Back to the original topic, what is teleology?

Or take the example of a child who is bullied.

Causality believes that children who are bullied are because of past experiences that lead to the present heart.

But teleology believes that the child's purpose is not to have contact with people, so he uses introversion as an excuse.

What does that mean?

Simply put, this child, in fact, longs for love and friendship in his heart.

However, he is afraid that he will be hurt by others again, and that he will not receive a response if he gives his heart.

Therefore, he used his previous experience to weave for himself the identity of an introverted child who was bullied.

His [purpose] is not to be bullied again.

And with the identity of this [bullied introverted child], he can naturally close himself off.

In this way, he will no longer have contact with people, he will no longer be bullied, and he will no longer fear betrayal.

Admittedly, it hurts to close yourself off, but it's better to close yourself off than to be hurt again.

The child wants to change, but he loses the courage to pursue happiness, and for him, although the present is painful, it is easier to maintain the status quo than in the unknown future.

If you look at the fish from a teleological perspective, you can actually better understand the behavior of the role of the fish.

Rays also had many companions in the past, and the little Yasha copper sparrow was his friend.

Fusha, Fa Fang, Mi Fu, Yingda, the four immortal Yasha, are brothers and sisters with him, and are his family.

He also had relatives and friends worth entrusting, and he also had peace of mind and happiness.

But these family members and friends all died of [karma].

There is no doubt that past experiences will make Wei pay special attention to the emotions with these family and friends.

But it is precisely because they are paid too much attention that when they die one by one, the fish will be more painful.

As the last Yasha, it should be painful for Rayu to witness the death of his most cherished family and friends one by one, right?

As the only remaining Yasha in the world, he must be lonely, right?

So, now we can understand the [purpose] of the fish.

His purpose is to "no longer lose".

He was actually eager to be cared for and companionship, but the experience of saying goodbye to one family and friend after another scared him.

He was lonely and longed for company, but fearful of going through the pain of losing his family again.

Therefore, for this purpose of [no more loss], he chose to arm himself with past experiences and put on a barbed armor for himself.

He put on a cold expression on everyone's face, refusing to go thousands of miles.

He no longer gives his heart to anyone and no longer gives his emotions.

As long as you close yourself and no longer give your true heart to anyone, you will naturally no longer experience the pain of loss.

There may be good things ahead and there may be waiting for him, but he does not have the courage to move forward because he is afraid of losing.

On the contrary, maintaining the status quo is painful, but at least he does not have to face the loss again.

In this way, we can understand why the fish is so cold to everyone.

As an elder, he did not want Ruoling to be polluted by karma.

And in order to [no longer lose], he must also refuse Ruoling's approach, reject Ruoling's kindness and concern, and refuse to give affection to Ruoling.

......

"I'm fine, you can go."

At this time, on the Wangshu Inn.

Wei gave an eviction order to Ruo Ling.

Ruo Ling knows the psychology of the fish.

I obviously want to accompany and care, but I suppress myself for fear of losing.

It's very uncomfortable to suppress your emotions like this!

For the eviction order of indifference to the fish.

Ruo Ling didn't care, she showed a funny smile with her teeth, and sat down next to the fish with her own care.

"But I don't want to leave yet."

Ruo Ling suddenly sat beside him, which couldn't help but make Wei frown.

Displeasure flashed in his eyes, and he said in a colder voice: "Don't come near me!"

However, Wei's fierce expression was exchanged for Ruo Ling's sweet smile.

"Is Uncle Wei afraid that karma will affect me?"

"It's okay, I'm a child of the Earth Vein, I'm also an immortal, and it's hard for karma to affect me."

She looked at the fish and smiled innocently.

"I don't know why, I just want to accompany Uncle Wei, even if it's just to sit here with you for a while."

There is no doubt that when a child who has studied psychology and can observe words and has a gentle heart about loving others, she is really powerful.

As soon as these words came out, the brilliance she exuded actually made Wei's pupils tremble, and her face was a little moved.

However, how can a heart that has been lonely for thousands of years be so easy to shake?

Just for a moment, the fish calmed down.

He glanced at Ruo Ling coldly.

"If you don't go, then I'll go."

Say it, stand up and leave.

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