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I must add that He Yubai believes that American culture is better than Chinese culture.

"I still don't understand why Huaxia's interpersonal communication is so complicated." He Yubai said disdainfully, "How good is America, it's straight and straightforward, what's there to say."

"Is it complicated? I don't think it is complicated. This is a manifestation of our Chinese culture. If it is a good thing, we are also willing to tell others directly, but if it is a bad thing, we are used to remind others in a tactful way." Zhang Yun unconsciously Stirring the rest of the stomach, he looked at He Yubai, "Don't you think that directly pointing out the mistakes of others is an offense to the other party?"

"I don't think so." He Yubai swallowed a large chunk of his stomach and said vaguely, "Just tell the other party so that the other party can make corrections as quickly as possible and make up for what they did wrong. Isn't this bad?"

"This is of course good. Directness can indeed solve the problem the fastest." Zhang Yun smiled slightly, "But you need to be direct in doing things, but you can't speak. Have you ever thought about it, the reason why you feel that telling someone directly can make him correct is because Because you are such a person?"

He Yubai thought for a while and said, "If you tell me where I am wrong, I will definitely correct it."

"So you will think that directly pointing out the other party's mistakes is the best and most effective." Zhang Yun looked at the streets where people came and went, and raised his hand slightly. "But in this world, there are all kinds of people, everyone's Ideas are different. Some people go straight to you, some are somber and narrow, not everyone is like you, and can accept other people's suggestions humbly.

"If someone is pointed to the nose and said,'You are doing this wrong,' he may feel that you look down on him, you are despising him. They will not refute you, but they will remember what you did. . So waiting for a certain day in the future, you will find that you have an extra enemy for some reason. And this enmity was formed because of that sentence you had originally said.

"So, in order to make everything the best, we Huaxia people choose to go around a corner and make suggestions tactfully."

He Yubai heard the words, pondered for a moment, and nodded in a seemingly understandable way: "It seems to have some truth. But it's still very complicated. Why do you want to think about things in one sentence so long?"

"That's because you are more accustomed to the way of getting along abroad. For Huaxia people, it is engraved in the blood. We are used to making friends, not enemies. Just like in the world, Huaxia never fears any enemy. , But we never take the initiative to engage in hostility with other countries. This is our principle of dealing with things, this is our golden mean." Zhang Yun said with a smile.

"Ha!'The Way of the Mean', I've heard this word." He Yubai seemed to be excited that he finally heard a familiar word. Is that good sir? This kind of thinking is also worth touting?"

Zhang Yun frowned and said helplessly: "You fake foreign devil, can you not only understand our Huaxia culture literally? If the mean expression is really a good gentleman, we Huaxia would have become a certain It’s a neutral country that doesn’t even have its own army. How could we go all the way to where we are today? The Golden Mean, but one of the important foundations of the enduring Chinese culture!"

He Yubai thought for a while, it seemed to be the reason. In his scarce historical knowledge, all the good gentlemen who can only play with the mud have almost been killed.

But the two words "the mean", in his impression, seemed to mean "homogeneous mud"?

Is there any other meaning?

He Yubai is a little unsure, but he has some interest in it.

"I always think that the American culture is the best in the world, and it's the best for me. Listening to you, I kind of want to learn more about Chinese culture." He Yubai said with interest.

"Okay." Zhang Yun threw the clean box into the trash can next to him, took a sip of water, and pretended to be a teacher, "Little Sunflower Daddy's class is starting! Today I will do it. Tell me, what is Chinese culture."

"Oh, pretending to be like a missionary." He Yubai was very displeased.

Zhang Yun didn’t care about He Yubai’s complaints. He said: “Actually, many of our Huaxia cultures are integrated into the daily lives of our Huaxia people. Many things are subconscious reactions. You stay for a while. Probably it can be clearly felt.

"If you want to understand the meaning of Chinese culture, you must first know three words; gentleman, etiquette, and the golden mean that you don't understand."

"I also know a gentleman, just like a gentleman in England." He Yubai interrupted.

But Zhang Yun shook his head and corrected: "Gentleman, in some respects it is indeed very similar to foreign gentlemen, but its essence is completely different from gentlemen. A gentleman is a kind of decent and polite. Even if a gentleman is poor, it seems that He is about to starve to death, and he has to keep his appearance bright and beautiful, to pick up gold, to be a ladyfirst, etc. and so on and so on and so on and so on and so on and so on and so on and so on, and so on. Is that what a gentleman should be decent?"

"Hmm...I thought you were saying that a gentleman only knows to keep his appearance bright and beautiful." He Yubai nodded, "Indeed, a gentleman must maintain everything he strictly observes no matter what."

"This is the difference between a gentleman in China and a gentleman." Zhang Yun explained, "A gentleman has its own standards and dignity. For a gentleman, from ancient times to the present, no one can say clearly what is really true. Gentleman.

"In other words, there is no precise definition of a gentleman in China. A well-dressed local boss speaks civilized language, but he shows arrogance and contempt in the face of people who are inferior to him. , He’s not a gentleman. And even if he’s all dirty, he’s always "fuck" and "your mother's", if he can help when someone needs help, he doesn’t hesitate to extend a helping hand, In a sense, he is also a gentleman."

He Yubai was puzzled: "What does this mean? There is no precise definition? How can you determine whether a person is a gentleman? I don't think the two examples you gave have universal meaning?"

"Okay, let me change the way of expression." Zhang Yun thought for a while and said, "In Huaxia, there is really no precise definition of a gentleman, but we Chinese people can use the opposite of a gentleman to prove what a gentleman is. for."

He Yubai asked: "What's the opposite?"

Zhang Yun replied: "The villain.

"The gentleman is magnanimous, and the villain grows afflicted. The beauty of a gentleman is the beauty of a gentleman. The gentleman is in harmony but different, and the villain is not in harmony... No one can explain what a gentleman should behave in daily life, but you are now casually Stop someone and ask them what the villain is, they can tell you why."

"The villain...is the villain a bad person?" He Yu Baipin asked.

Zhang Yun shook his head: "The villain is not necessarily the villain, but the villain must be the villain. Let me give you another example."

While speaking, Zhang Yun looked around and saw a couple sitting in the opposite milk tea shop, leaning against each other.

Zhang Yun pointed to the couple and said to He Yubai: "Like that couple. If I see that couple, what I think in my heart is, "It's so good, so envious, they are so happy." Ah', I am a gentleman, this is a kind of'adult beauty' in a broad sense.

"But if I see that couple, what I think is,'That woman is so good-looking, it would be nice if it were my daughter-in-law', or'That woman is very nasty when she looks at it, and she must be very emotional in bed.' Or'The woman knows by her face, she has had many boyfriends, and she probably has changed her color'... Then I am a villain.

"So, do you understand?"

"..." He Yubai hesitated after hearing the example given by Zhang Yun, and asked, "You know the mental activities of the villain so well, are you..."

"Farewell!" Zhang Yun was full of black lines and walked away.

Seeing Zhang Yun's face full of depression, He Yubai hurriedly pulled Zhang Yun back with a smile, and said, "Just kidding. I seem to understand what you mean. What you mean is that in Chinese culture, a gentleman has no fixed meaning. But the villain does. A gentleman who doesn't do the things the villain does, thinks about the things the villain thinks, is a gentleman, even if he is sloppy and full of dirty words."

Zhang Yun nodded: "Yes, it's almost like this."

"But a man full of swear words is a gentleman. This argument doesn't seem to be in line with the current values, right?" He Yubai raised a new question.

"Of course not, so we have to talk about etiquette." Zhang Yun said, "that is, the way of etiquette is emphasized in our Chinese culture."